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Consent Checklist
Yes / No / Maybe List for Partners
Use this checklist to discuss boundaries, desires, and limits with your partner(s). Mark each item as Yes (interested), No (hard limit), or Maybe (willing to discuss/curious). Review together and discuss any items where your preferences differ.
Physical Intimacy & Touch
| Activity | Yes | No | Maybe | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Kissing (lips) | ||||
| Kissing (deep/passionate) | ||||
| Hugging/cuddling | ||||
| Hand holding in public | ||||
| Light touching/caressing | ||||
| Massage (non-sexual) | ||||
| Massage (sensual) | ||||
| Oral sex (giving) | ||||
| Oral sex (receiving) | ||||
| Manual stimulation (giving) | ||||
| Manual stimulation (receiving) | ||||
| Penetrative sex (vaginal) | ||||
| Penetrative sex (anal) | ||||
| Sex toys (using on partner) | ||||
| Sex toys (partner using on me) | ||||
| Group activities (3+ people) | ||||
| Same-room play | ||||
| Separate-room play |
Safer Sex Practices
| Practice | Yes | No | Maybe | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Barriers for penetrative sex (condoms) | ||||
| Barriers for oral sex (dental dams) | ||||
| PrEP usage discussion | ||||
| Regular STI testing (specify frequency) | ||||
| Sharing test results before play | ||||
| Fluid bonding discussions required | ||||
| Emergency contraception available |
Emotional & Relational
| Activity | Yes | No | Maybe | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Pet names/terms of endearment | ||||
| Saying "I love you" | ||||
| Overnight stays | ||||
| Meeting children | ||||
| Meeting family/friends | ||||
| Social media connection | ||||
| Public photos together | ||||
| Sharing on dating profiles | ||||
| Texting/communication outside dates | ||||
| Emergency contact status | ||||
| Key/home access | ||||
| Sharing calendars | ||||
| Holiday celebrations together | ||||
| Travel together | ||||
| Financial entanglement |
Communication Preferences
| Preference | Yes | No | Maybe | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Detailed sharing about other partners | ||||
| General updates only about other partners | ||||
| Don't ask, don't tell | ||||
| Notice before dates with others | ||||
| Check-in during dates with others | ||||
| Debrief after dates with others | ||||
| Veto power discussions | ||||
| Regular relationship check-ins | ||||
| Written agreements/contracts |
Additional Boundaries & Desires
Remember
Consent is ongoing and can be changed at any time. Schedule regular check-ins to revisit this list as your relationship evolves. A "maybe" is not a "yes"—always discuss before proceeding with maybe items.