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Values Clarification

Understanding Your ENM Foundation

Why Values Matter

Understanding your core values helps you make relationship decisions that align with who you are. This worksheet helps you identify and prioritize what matters most to you in relationships.

Part 1: Core Values Assessment

Rate how important each value is to you (1 = not important, 5 = essential):

Autonomy

Freedom to make your own choices

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Security

Stability and predictability in relationships

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Adventure

New experiences and excitement

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Honesty

Complete transparency with partners

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Privacy

Personal boundaries and discretion

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Connection

Deep emotional bonds

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Variety

Diverse experiences and connections

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Commitment

Long-term dedication to partners

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Growth

Personal development through relationships

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Community

Being part of a larger ENM community

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Intimacy

Physical and emotional closeness

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Independence

Maintaining individual identity

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Part 2: Your Top 5 Values

From the list above, identify your top 5 non-negotiable values:

Part 3: Values in Practice

How does ethical non-monogamy align with your core values?

Which values have you had to compromise on in past relationships?

What would violating your top values look like in practice?

Part 4: Values & Relationship Style

What relationship structure best supports your values? (polyamory, swinging, open, RA, etc.)

What does your ideal relationship constellation look like?

What would you need from partners to feel your values are honored?

Part 5: Action Commitments

Based on your values, what commitments will you make?

I will always...

I will never...

I will communicate about...